How are you?

It's neither about what you can give to others nor about how much time you can spend with them. It's about how you make them feel. If you are a book lover then you might have came across a saying from Halo which goes like "That was one of the saddest things about people--their most important thoughts and feelings often went unspoken and barely understood.”  Knowing that, Here I am going to address an audience who is working hard for securing their future, running for their dreams and dying to meet their deadlines but still I am expecting them to pause for a while and give it a thought. 

What was the last time when you listened to someone's problem as you genuinely do care for them? Have you given enough time to understand their mental state? 

Most of you will say, What nonsense he is taking about? We have psychiatrist available online/offline for consultation. If anyone needs help we can suggest best one by google search. In most of the case people need a good listener not a psychiatrist. A good listener who can make feel them that they understand and they are with them when they need to say something.  

For a moment lets get into the shoes of a person who wants to express or say something which is bothering him/her. If you are a good writer and have your own diary then you will go and write it out. If you have family who support emotionally too then best. If you have friends who listen to you without judging you then you will open up to them without any worry.   Well, now if you have nothing from above and you are in negative half of your life's sine curve then I am afraid that either you end up taking wrong step or if you are strong enough to overcome by own then you may end up being emotion less person. 

How about genuinely asking at regular interval to your friends, teammates & family "How are you buddy? Let me know if anything is bothering you. We will kick that out". If you have correct motive then you will surely make them feel that you do care for them. That feeling, may be that's all they need at that time. We all are humans and we are what we are because of our emotion and feelings.  

He was sitting silently in my lab and all other students were busy in conducting experiments. I noticed him and asked 

"Hey, What happen?, Why so serious? :)" 

"Nothing Sir, I am not feeling well"

I was clearly seeing in his eyes that he has lot to say, but being an introvert and a person who mind his own business I was not getting any points to keep the conversation going. 

"Where it's paining? In your heart?"  It was too direct and  to the point  

"Kind of, sir"

"Don't worry buddy, don't take much tension. Everything will be fine over a period of time & you will laugh when you remember this day" 

"Sir, Do you have same experience?" 

"Kind of, sir :)" 

I wish I could have talked bit more with him on that day. I was not aware that focusing on my job of helping other students to get their experiments done is going to cost someone's life.  I believe that every thing is destined and it happens as it should happen  but I could have done bit more to make him feel better.  

We all learn as we go through life. Some learn from experience and  some learn from others experience. Offer a help to someone when you see that they need it. Don't wait for someone to call you for a help. As I said, we all are busy in building our life but take some time to give meaning to your life too. So next time when you have a free time and a mobile phone in your hand, just ask people in your circle "How are you?" May be this time they really want to say something other than "Fine"  

I can proudly say that Someone asked & listened to me too, and here is what I can say about her.

 गर्मी की धुप में बीन मौसम बरसात के जेसी 

 गहेरे सन्नाटे में प्यारी कोइ आवाज के जेसी

 अजनबी हो के भी एक दोस्त के जेसी और लिखने बेठू तो कागज के पन्नो जेसी।

 (Like you can write all your thoughts on कागज़ के पन्ने 😇)

So, If you got it what I want to convey then I & others in your circle will wait for your message which goes like "How are you?"