Answer to the question "When I will get married?"

One fine Saturday, I just woke up and decided to spent the weekend in my rented room by reading books or playing counter strike or just doing office work same as most of the other weekends.  As a bachelor you will have lots of responsibilities and one of them is cleaning your room because you will be going to spend next 48 hrs in that room. So, I finished all these great responsibilities and got ready and started from  my room for lunch at around 12.00pm.

Mind - A worker who is never on leave, keeps running all the time and processing our itineraries our to do list in back-end. It keeps us alive by serving us a different different options for each items on our to do list and calculating pros/cons.  Sometimes thoughts are too deep that we will be doing some work and it's get done but when we come out of our thoughts and try to recall what we did, we will be hardly able to recall "How" and "What" part of what work we did. Of-course this behavior  won't be the same for x% people on earth  but it doesn't mean that a worker who is never on leave is on leave.

I came back to my room at 8.00pm  with bag having a mug with reputed builder's name printed on it, few papers and a photo stating "Congratulations for buying your dream home".

Was it a instant decision? Have I did all my studies on purchasing home?  and more importantly was there a sufficient amount in my bank account to book a home?  

Around at 12.30 pm I reached to the small hotel and ordered Roti subji. I was not sure whether the smell of the subji was good or I was too hungry, I started eating without waiting for the person with whom I supposed to have lunch. If this person is your best friend then no problem your ear will get chance to hear some "shlokes" and then you both will continue with lunch. But if that supposed person is the person who is going to be your future spouses then you need  a skill to eat all those words and blame with that roti subji and accept your fault. 

We had lunch and then she asked what next? to which I replied lets buy a home. First she laughed and then may be few past incidents flashed in front of her eyes and she immediately recalled that she got a "pagal" one. Now she looked at me with serious face and by that time I booked a cab.

I spent around 1 year to look for different properties  and 1 whole day for financial planning, calculating the risk and accessing possible options.  During this 1 year the process was running somewhere in back of my mind and that 1 day calculation which I did 1 year back was keeping the process in back-end by saying "I saw this guy's bank account and number suggest that you should stay in back-end for 5 more years"

The constraint here was not the amount in bank account but the lack of courage to do what you really want to do. 

We reached at the location and got a grand welcome. We spent our whole afternoon in understanding their project plan. Finally at one desk we gave rest to our butt and started bargaining to finalize the price. Being a gujarati the word "Bargaining" must be well known and well practiced word for me but that was never a case with me. She came to rescues at that time and dealt with the "Bargaining" word very well. 

Once everything was final the manager came to us and told "Sir, Congratulations for your first home. You need to give 1lakh as booking amount"  I heard 1 lakh but just to confirm I asked the amount again.  Manager got busy in preparing papers and now I looked at her and laughed.  I told to her " You did good bargaining and made them reduce 1.5 lakh ammount from total ammount. I will tell these guys to take 1 lakh from that and give back 50k to us" 

The way she looked at me, I realised that I craked a wrong joke at wrong time. 

"Do you have enough amount in your account?"

"No"

"Now what? Sorry, I asked you same question after lunch 'what next' and now we are here"

The sales manager came to desk again

"Sir, actually I have only 30% of 1 lakh right now in my account"

"No problem sir, you can give remaining amount tomorrow"

"No but I need some money in hand in case of emergency so I can give 20% right now" 

The manager looked at me and the way he looked at me I can tell he was thinking that with 10% of 1 lakh in hand what kind of emergency I will tackle.

"Ok sir, you can give 20% right now and remaining you can give tomorrow"

"Remaining I will give after two days once I will get salary credited in my account"

Now he was really confused that we were there from afternoon and went through all the options, did  bargaining too. 

"Sir, give me two minutes, I will talk with my manager"

That day we finally booked home. 

In life we come across many situations where we overthink the things and doubt our own capability. We will access all the possible options and do the risk calculations but we will never take decision or we will delay the decision. Mind will be always working in background until we reach to some conclusion.  We have to take decisions and have courage to make it right. There is no fun in life without taking risk and marriage is one of that risk.

She always tells "Being with you is a roller coaster ride in which I am getting stomach tickle which makes me laugh and I am scared also. But over all I enjoy the ride and that's what gives meaning to our life" 

Be ready, one fine Saturday, when I have planned my day with reading books, playing CS or doing office work and after the lunch you ask me "what next?" and to which I may replay

"Today evening, let's get married"